Expectations
A message from WPF President, Amy Baradell
Hello WPF sisters! I hope you are enjoying the beautiful fall weather as much as I am. The North Carolina autumn is hard to beat. September is always a fast month and before I know it, it’s October and the leaves are changing. I have lived in North Carolina for three quarters of my life. I expect fall to come. When I saw the leaves beginning to change in the fall of 2020 I was encouraged. Most of my expectations in 2020 were not met. The change of the leaves seemed to suggest that some expectations would still be met. Due to COVID, my well-planned calendar, written in ink, ended up a mess.
Expectations… What are they? Why do they matter?
One definition is a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future. We are heading into the holidays, a season that has many memories and traditions. With them all there are certainly expectations. We most likely expect that Thanksgiving will include a turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, green bean casserole, cranberry sauce, and a plethora of desserts. Somehow, if someone decided to have baked ziti, bread and salad, we might be disappointed. Why? It’s not that baked ziti is bad, it’s just not what we expected.
We have expectations about so many things and we may not even realize they are there. They can be about places, events, outcomes and people. Years ago a friend shared this quote with me. “Unexpressed expectations are premeditated resentment.” I realized that so often, in my relationships, I expected people to read my mind and know what I wanted, what I expected. This happened with my husband, my children, my parents and my friends. How different I became when I learned to express what I was expecting. Expressing my expectations didn’t mean that people had to comply, but it definitely changed me and removed my resentment. When things don’t go the way we think they should, we can have feelings of disappointment which leads to resentment.
We have expectations for events, people and places. We also have expectations for ourselves. On “The Lazy Genius” podcast, Kendra Adachi laid out this principle: Match your expectation to the energy you are willing to put into it. If I expect to have a beautiful yard, I have to put in the energy of planting, weeding, and watering it. If I decide that I do not want to put the energy into my yard, I can let go of that expectation. I can be content with a simpler yard. The older I get, I am thankful for the things I have learned about expectations. Some I need to let go of. Those I hold for other people, I need to express. Those I have for myself need to be measured by the energy I am willing to put into them. And as far as a calendar planned out in ink, I am using a pencil these days. When I loosen the grip on my expectations, I am open to things I haven’t even thought of.
WPF FOUNDATION NEWS: Building a World of Understanding
WPF FOUNDATION NEWS: Building a World of UnderstandingA Message from Jean Pudlo, WPFF President Jean Pudlo
Have you been thinking about your gift to the WPF Foundation? Now is the time! The Foundation Board has combined to create a $2100 matching fund! Your gift of $50 or more by November 30 will be matched by $50 from the Board.
Why? Because we are really excited about the Foundation’s work to provide leadership and career development opportunities to girls and women. These opportunities can be life changing for women and help them to be independent, to better support their families, and to attain their dreams. And we want more of you to enjoy knowing that you are helping create these opportunities.
Whether you’ve given before or this is your first gift, we’ll match your November gift to the WPF Foundation. Here are four ways you can make your gift:
• You can donate at our table at the November Bazaar
• You can click here to donate: www.wpforum.org/Donate
• Mail a check – payable to WPFF – to: PO Box 38594, Greensboro, NC 27438
• TEXT to GIVE at: “WPFF” to 44-321
Thank you in advance for your generosity and support!
Proposed Bylaw Changes
The WPF Board of Directors has proposed the following change to the WPF Bylaws to update the Secretary’s role and responsibilities. WPF membership will vote on this proposed change at the December business meeting.
D. The Secretary shall:
(1) Review and supervise the Administrative Assistant or her designee in the duties of recording the minutes of all meetings of the Board of Directors and any monthly, annual, or special membership meetings at which official WPF business is transacted.
(2) Maintain the permanent Minutes Books of the Corporation(s)
(3) Ensure that notices are sent of all annual, regular, and special meetings.
(4) Be responsible for maintaining the official membership role of the Corporation.
(5) The secretary shall have additional duties as directed by the board of directors.
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Change for January Meeting Date
Mark your calendars! Starmount Forest Country Club will be undergoing renovations to its kitchen January 2-20 and we will not be able to meet there on our usual second Wednesday of the month. Therefore, the January WPF meeting will take place on Wednesday, January 25, 2023 from 12:30-1:30 PM.
Special Interest Group Upcoming Events
Women’s Health & Wellness
Women’s Only 5K Walk & Run
Sunday, November 6 @ 3pm
MedCenter for Women, 930 Third Street, Greensboro
The Women’s Only 5K has been rescheduled. Onsite registration begins at 11:30 am and exhibits open at 12:30 pm. Click here for new details. WPF has a team and we are happy if more can join us! Contact Polly Sizemore at pollysizemore@triad.rr.com for more information.
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Working Moms
Tuesday, November 15 @ 4 PM at Lucky 32
1421 Westover Terrace
Join the Working Moms for drinks as we gather to support each other. Please RSVP to Marlee at marleegfoster@gmail.com or 336-235-1596.
Devoted to Diversity and Ladies of Leisure (LOL)
Sunday, November 13 @ 2 PM
Guilford College
Devoted to Diversity SIG is joining the Ladies of Leisure SIG for a tour of Greensboro’s Underground Railroad. The New Garden Woods, located on the current Guilford College campus, was a sanctuary for many over the centuries: for Native Americans who hunted in the forest, for fugitives from slavery, for Quaker men evading the Confederate draft, and most recently for refugees housed on the Guilford campus in the Every Campus a Refuge program. Max L. Carter, a retired Quaker Studies professor at Guilford will lead us on a 90-minute walking tour of the woods and share the history and stories that the trees have been silent witnesses to for hundreds of years. It’s an afternoon you will not forget. Please RSVP retired@wpforum.org
Parking: Take either the George Fox or Levi Coffin entrances to the Guilford College campus. Follow past the athletic fields to Nathan Hunt Rd. Follow Nathan Hunt past the tennis courts and the lake, driving up the hill and parking in the space on the left by the trail head (there’s a sign) along the road.
Sippin’ Sisters
Tuesday, November 15 @ 6 PM
at Havana Phil’s Cigar Company
1628 Battleground Avenue
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY FROM SIPPIN SISTERS!!! November marks the second anniversary of our Sippin’ Sisters themed evenings!!! We are thrilled to announce that Erica Parker has arranged a private booking at Havana Phil’s. Come enjoy fun music, great friends and delicious catering on the outside patio. Cost is $35. RSVP to Kim Trone 336-707 -2136 and Venmo her @kimberly-Trone-1
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Women of Wall Street (WOW)
Thursday, November 17, 2022 @ 6 PM
Mt. Pisgah United Methodist Church – 2600 Pisgah Church Road
Join us for the final Business Meeting of the year. We will review the portfolio and make any necessary changes. Please plan to attend (meeting location inside the church: enter to the left of the sanctuary).
The Club is open to new members every January. If you would like information on joining, please contact Peggy Ward at peggy.ward8@icloud.com. The purpose of the Club is to provide a comfortable forum to learn about the financial markets and strategies.
Books & Arts
Friday, November 18, 6-9 PM
Captain White House, Graham
If you don’t get enough shopping at the Bazaar, there’s another great option at the Mistletoe and Martinis event sponsored by Alamance Arts. Get tickets at www.alamancearts.org for $50. The ticket price includes 3 martinis and appetizers plus the opportunity to shop the great assortment of gifts provided by the organization. For obvious reasons, carpooling is helpful! This event typically sells out, so don’t procrastinate on your ticket purchase. If you’d like to go and coordinate with your WPF sisters, purchase your ticket online and contact Laura Burton (LBurton@foxrothschild.com) for carpooling options.
Service to Others
Saturday, November 19, 11 AM -1 PM
ReConsidered Goods
4118 Spring Garden Street
Service to Others will be working at Reconsidered Goods sorting, bagging, pricing, testing, and/or preparing.
To join us, RSVP to Jody Susong at jsusong@triad.rr.com.
Reconsidered Goods takes donated materials from manufacturers and individuals and helps divert them from the landfill and instead, putting these items and materials into the hands of artists, makers, teachers and kids to create something new. Their mission is to promote environmental awareness, community engagement, and creative expression through reuse, education, and the arts – they imagine a world where nothing is used once nor thrown away but instead reused again and again.
Whine Divas
Tuesday, November 29 @ 6 PM
WineStyles, Friendly Center
Please join us at WineStyles at Friendly Center. We will sample four different wines that will pair well with your holiday meals. Cost is $25 per person. RSVP to Lorri at Lorriyaskiewicz@gmail.com
Book Club
Tuesday, December 6 @ 7 PM
Jane Hewitt’s home
Jean Pudlo will lead the group in discussion of Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel Wilkerson. In this brilliant book, Wilkerson gives us a masterful portrait of an unseen phenomenon in America. Through an immersive, deeply researched narrative and stories about real people, she explores how America today and throughout its history has been shaped by a hidden caste system, a rigid hierarchy of human rankings. RSVP to Jane by text at 336-312-0200 or email at jhewitt51@gmail.com.
Books & Arts
Monday, December 12, 7:30 PM
First Baptist Church
1000 W. Friendly Avenue
Celebrate the holiday season with beautiful music at the holiday concert presented by Bel Canto Company, Gate City Voices, and the Greensboro Youth Chorus. Tickets are available at www.belcantocompany.com for $30 adult, $25 senior (65+). If there is sufficient interest, we will plan dinner together at Embur Fire Fusion on Friendly Avenue. Purchase your ticket online and contact Kris Landrum to confirm your plans and be added to the dining list (klandrum@tuggleduggins.com).
Books & Arts
Friday, December 16, 7 PM
(doors open 6:30 pm)
Magnolia House
442 Gorrell Street
Join your friends for the “Soulful Holiday Jam Concert with Ronda Thomas” at the historic Magnolia House. Tickets are available online for $30 (www.thehistoricmagnoliahouse.org) or are $35 at the door. Those interested in dining together prior to the concert will meet at Mellow Mushroom at 5 pm for dinner and carpool to the event. If you plan to attend, please email Kris Landrum (klandrum@tuggleduggins.com) to be included in gathering plans.